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5 Things you should Absolutely Avoid on a First Date

After meeting someone cool it’s so exciting when you think of the first date with them. It is more of nerve-wrecking. The anxiety which comes along should not let you spoil the date. It is always advised that for a successful first date, avoid pretense especially when it comes to personal behavior.


This is just among the many don’ts and do’s which include:

Mentioning your ex and trying to be someone else:

This has always been a great turn off for most individuals. Often, it symbolizes that you are not yet over your ex and the date you are currently in is just a rebound. Talking about a person you loved makes your date start wondering whether you are ready to get someone new. Avoid such conversation to avoid failure.

If you decide to act on your first date you will get a bigger challenge later when trying to be real. Just be real and natural such that you won’t need to remember the actions you implied later.

Getting drunk:

Drinking on your first date should be minimal at most less than two beverages. Excessive drinking may result in awkward situations leading you to make irrational decisions. The goals of a first date is engagement in speaking and listening which might not be achieved in a spinning room.

Talking much of yourself and staying on your phone:

Balance between talking about your own self and enquiring about the other party. Talking too much about yourself gives a self-centeredness implication. Asking the other party too much about themselves gives an uncomfortable feeling of a detective. Balance out.

Texting, retweeting, liking or posting when on a date makes the date think that you are not interested in the date or you are taking it less serious. At this time keep off your phone and focus on knowing your date well one-on-one.

Wearing revealing clothes and sleeping with him or her:

This the only chance to give appositive impression. The clothes you choose to wear can make you look loose or easy to the man even when you are not that. Do not dress like you are going for a gym but just dress well with no exaggerations. Be casual, for men just do pants and a shirt and ladies a beautiful dress or cute top with a pant or a skirt.

If your intention is the date to result in a serious relationship, ensure that you do not make love with your date on the first date. Letting yourself for sex on the first date may lead to no calls afterwards.

Coming with a friend:

This mostly affects ladies. Although first dates may be nerve-wracking, do not bring along a friend. It may feel comforting having your best friend around but realistically it is never a nice idea. Dates are meant for two people who want to know each other deeper. Coming along with her shifts your attention to her from your date. Just let the guy know you are not interested in the date rather than turning up with a friend.